• Watch him drive in heavy traffic.
• Play tennis or golf with him.
• Listen as he talks to his mother when he doesn't know you're listening.
• See how he treats those who serve him (waiters, ushers, maids, service station attendants, etc.)
• Notice how and for whom he spends his money.
• Look at his friends.  

After sharing those six suggestions, she came up with yet another one - almost as an afterthought. "Oh by the way," she said, "if you still can't make up your mind, then look at his shoes!" A man who keeps his shoes in good repair, she explained, generally tends to the rest of his life, too. Did you notice the common thread here? Not counting the last one about the shoes, all the rest of these guidelines have to do with how we treat other people. I think the writer is onto something here, something very important. If you're looking for a mate or a friend, look at how that person treats people. The way we treat other people reveals a lot about our faith. If you want to do good for Christ, then treat others with kindness, compassion, respect and love.

Let us Pray: God of love, for all those around the world who are in pain, who are hungry, who are afraid, who are fearful, who are alone, who are suffering loss, we pray that you will show them your presence and enable us to be companions along the way. We ask this in Jesus name. Amen.